Okay--- It's time to find out if it's "just me."  I HAVE to know!!!!!  When you text someone and they don't reply, is it a) because the text didn't go through? (MEDIOCRE PHONE SERVICE.) b) because the answer is no, therefore the text no longer applies?  (NO, N/A.)  c) because they don't check their phone very often and they just "missed it"? (???)  d) because hey are not interested (in whatever you texted about) and the answer is no?  (BLOWING YOU OFF, NO.)  e) because they consider what you texted inconsequential/unimportant and therefore their motivation to reply is not there? (IE, THEY ARE VERY BUSY.) f) because they really wish you didn't even HAVE their number and they wish you would stop texting them? (COMPLETELY BLOWING YOU OFF, GO AWAY!) g) because they forgot to get back to you? (THEY WERE BUSY/FORGOT.) h) other.  I'm going to be completely straight with you all and tell you that I nearly go NUTS when I don't get a reply from a text, email or other kind of message.  Is it me?  'Cause if it is, I'll get help!!!  My kids tell me it might be me. 

So when I don't get a reply from a text message (that reasonably would expect a reply) should I:  a) ignore it?  b) pout and sing the song, "No body likes me, everybody hates me, think I'll eat some worms"? c) hire a private investigator to find out why? d) put my cell phone underneath the front left tire of my car and run over it? e) re-text the message to them in case it didn't go through?  f) just forget about texting and call them? g) take a few deep breaths and the take a hot bath?


All I'm really trying to say is, IT BUGS ME!!! I know, I know--- chill out, relax, get a grip---- "too uptight to play jazz!"

Why the title?  The title was taken from an actual conversation that I had.  It's catchy.  I like it.  Do I believe it? No.  If our personalities and tendencies were all the same, this world would be a boring place.  Those of us termed as "up-tight" get it done---- and get it done fast.  There is a place for that.  Those who are laid back--- still get it done, in their own time and in their own way.  (Well, some don't get it done at all, but for the most part I think most of them do.) Do we CHOOSE to be uptight?  Is it nurture or  is it nature?  I'll say what I usually say about the nature/nurture question:  a little bit of both.  I'm not gonna lie--- I'm pretty sure if you look up uptight in the dictionary, there is a photo of my family (the one I grew up in when I was a child.)  Do I choose to be this way?  Sometimes.  Have I come a long way over the years?  YES.  Am I continuing to be better about it (more relaxed) in the future?  Most definitely. My life is changing for the better on a daily basis and will continue to do so.  When I turned 40, I finally took charge of my life.  Sad, but true.  I choose to make these changes for the better on an hourly, daily and monthly basis, etc. Am I too uptight to play jazz?  I'll play some and post the video someday.

Hi everyone!  Well, I did it.  I created a new blog, and a new email address (which will not be my primary email address, so use the other one if you really want to get a hold of me.)  I will still maintain the other blog (which will be primarily about my family) which offshoots from my other email address, as well as create another blog about life and widowhood which will be completely public.  Still working on the privacy settings for the other two blogs.  Thanks for your patience and for reading/supporting me in these endeavors:)  I have a lot on my "plate" and a lot on my mind and I look forward to this journey into the world of blogging.  Please read along!!!!!